Algunos puntos para recordar cuando se manejan comportamientos disruptivos
1) Los l?mites de prueba son apropiados Y Saludable para su hijo:
In order for your child to grow functionally and emotionally, he/she must learn to test limits. Much of your child's interpersonal functioning comes from how he/she learns to relate to, have an effect on, and use his or her behavior to change/effect the behavior of others around them.
2) Su papel como padre (usar varios sombreros):
As a parent you serve three major roles in your relationship to your child. These roles are TEACHER COACH LIMITSETTER, in that order. Why We TEACH our child through direct instruction and through modeling. We COACH our child to shape behaviors to fit standards consistent with our moral, cultural, and social values. We SET LIMITS when correcting behaviors that stray from those values.
3) Establecer l?mites proporcionan seguridad:
Los l?mites les dan a los ni?os una sensaci?n de seguridad, incluso cuando se rebelan contra ellos. Cuando su hijo est? molesto y pierde el control de su comportamiento, su respuesta a eso es cr?tica. Su hijo busca que lo ayude a desarrollar controles, ya que a menudo considera que la p?rdida de control es bastante aterradora. Adem?s, permitir que su hijo experimente su frustraci?n con su l?mite establecido aumenta la comodidad con las emociones negativas y el conflicto dentro de las relaciones.
4) empujar Su propio nivel de comodidad al establecer l?mites:
Tenga en cuenta que usted, su hijo y su relaci?n son lo suficientemente fuertes como para tolerar anger, disappointment, and frustration. Be prepared for your child's wrath and possibly the words, I HATE YOU!! at some point in your parenting tenure. One of the biggest obstacles to overcoming problematic behaviors in your child is expecting validation from your kid. Needing validation from our children almost always leads to disappointment. Seek validation from being able to change how you parent and being able to correct disruptive or inappropriate behaviors.
5) ?Prep?rate para las explosiones de extinci?n !:
What are those When we try new behavior management strategies, our children will try upping the ante to let us know a) how unhappy they are that we are trying something different and b) to test how likely we are to stick with the plan. This phenomenon is what behaviorist call extinction bursts and this describes the tendency for an undesirable behavior to increase when the expected response to the behavior changes. Consistency as noted in another Brooklyn Letters blog is critical. Staying the course and working through these bursts while enable you and your child to make long-term gains.
Annette is a licensed clinical psychologist. She has a private practice in Park Slope and works with children with developmental delays and treats children/adolescents suffering from traumatic stress, depression, anxiety and related disorders. She incorporates cognitive-behavioral interventions with diverse clinical populations. She offers individual psychotherapy that focuses on building a child's existing strengths and developing new ways of coping with difficult situations. She can be reached at: email@example.com o por tel?fono al 917-519-3082.